Lauren Chen vs Your Masculinity

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[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I think something you are missing is when you talk about men with resources you seem to have in mind only the born wealthy who sit back and do not much, maybe they get a cool job through their connections which they don't do very well.

Actually the vast majority of men with resources are hard working, ambitious and competitive. You actually don't see many fat millionaires and billion because their constant competition with other men keeps them sharp. The stats show this, the poorer you are the more likely you are to be fat, unfit and unhealthy.

Your idea of how people live doesn't tally with reality.

[–]madcow-5 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, people born wealthy are raised with higher expectations of accomplishments. It's all about who you consider your peers. That's who people size themselves up to in order to gauge how well they're doing. You don't get to just go all Billy Madison and expect not to be mostly cut off and regarded as the black sheep of the family. Also, families that are that wealthy tend to be large families, not single-child households with no siblings, cousins and other relatives in the picture, as was depicted in that movie.

[–]369 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was only saying chastity being effeminate doesn't account for men that have a lot of resources, who have displayed enough competence to be trusted with the community's resources. These men don't care at all about a woman's commitment because they have no shortage of options, which is due to their value.

Oops this should say promiscuity, not chastity, in the first line.

[–]369 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Your idea of how people live doesn't tally with reality.

We agree for the most part. I don't see how this makes any sense to say.
In all, sure, having an abundance of resources doesn't make you immune to displaying those traits, but being competent enough to garner all of those resources is rarely accompanied by displaying said traits, as you've pointed out.

The argument was that levels of chastity don't appear to correlate with how masculine or effeminate men appear. I used an example of a man with abundant resources to display this exception.