I kept my mom in flowers because that's the way she felt. When she punched out, there were fresh flowers in her room. When we went to collect the stuff after the body was gone, they were still there. Her ashes are in his closet and have been there for a while, he put a bottle of bourbon next to them. I haven't bought flowers since she passed last year. Maybe I'll pop over someday when he's gone and put some flowers and another bottle of bourbon in there. For him.