Search the internet for the concept of "gift giver parties".

It will make you sick. And it does happen too. I have to wade through a bunch of people of that ilk who are now suddenly proud and affirmed after getting the result they wanted after attending such parties. I think it's fucking insane, but I'm a bigot if I say so.

Personally, if firing a loaded shotgun into my face would somehow legitimise myself as a white heterosexual male, I would sooner remain illegitimate and not give a fuck. Just saying.