‘Anti-Feminist’ Lawyer Is Suspect in Killing of Son of Federal Judge in N.J.

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[–]beermeem 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Okay let me date myself and put the Velvet Underground Radio on Pandora before I answer this. Actually, I'm not that old... I'd say it's a combination of an inability to create an attractive image and an overly inflated idea of what one should have.

You may not recall maybe ten years ago there was this huge thing in the media -- women 30+ to 45 who were "very deserving!" of a good man but "just couldn't find The One." It's kinda like that. Just people who think they should get to fuck beautiful rich people by the pool all day because they're so deserving.

I mean, that's the jaded version ;-) But an individual does have to create value for those around them. As much of a crazy capitalist as that makes me sound like. And, yeah, media hate...

[–]christine_grab 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That makes sense. Yeah, our culture has gotten to be really shallow, and I think that is tied to why in dating people have a big disconnect with expectations vs reality. The reality is that everyone has flaws and the right person for you is someone whose flaws you can live with.

I also think the shallow nature of our culture nowadays is why we have such an explosion in the homeless population. If something happened to my family and we became homeless, we could couch surf for years because we have a big network of people who love us. But we've invested in deep relationships with all of them. Nowadays, people have hundreds of "friends," but they aren't really friends, only shallow acquaintances. Then they have no one deeply invested in to turn to for help in hard times.