You can't be a fully independent person with that responsibility.

Agreed, this is something that's only really accessible if you have the nest egg/passive income to support yourself without working. Can be made easier if you had your mother, gf (unrelated to the child), or a nanny to help. Tbh idk if the lifetime costs of donor>surrogate>wet nurse>tutor would be that much more than that of dating>marriage>pregnancy>child rearing>potential divorce. It's almost like if you get rich you can fully subcontract out the functions of woman to reduce the risk of keeping all of those eggs in one basket so to speak.