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Is it unwise to pursue a chinese girl/ invest yourself in china with the current political climate?问题 | General Question (Serious) (self.China)

submitted 6 hours ago by Skyline-Accountant90

Hello,

Ive been on this subreddit here and there gaining insight because i appericate there honesty china. I am a uni student now, but when i was in college i met this really pretty chinese girl. I developed a minor friendly relationship with her and eventually became infatuated with her. She was determined, a hard worker, had goals, was kind and had a good personality. As a result of this i decided that i wanted to invest myself entirely with chinese culture, i had plans to study chinese, get a job in china or live there for a period of time, involve myself as much as possible with the chinese students and make as many friends as possible, and eventually try to develop a romantic relationship. I was successful in making alot of chinese friends and i was a small celebrity amongst the community because i could speak some chinese i knew from the chinese international school i attended (the chinese i knew was very mediocre but they still appreciated the genuine effort.), but the relationship with the chinese girl came to an awkward end when i impulsively confessed to her after she gave me her number without me asking, but later said she had a boyfriend ( To this day im feel she liked me, played me a little, and was also turned off by the impulsiveness likely a combination of all 3 i also dont know if she had a boyfriend.) Anyway , i learned alot about face and chinese culture, and dating chinese girls since a few of the Chinese students found out and likely spread the rumors since i got some glares and stares from 80% of the chinese students that i wasnt friends with. I had to see the girl every day for 3/4 of the rest of the semester, most awkard and uncomfortable 90 days of my life but hey the fool is the precursor to the savior

The next semster i relfected on the experience alot, toned down my slight extroversion and proceeded to reflect on my mistakes. Looking back the relationship with the girl wouldnt have worked out in the end, partially because of the culture difference, partially also because im sure the chinese students would see her differently dating an american, but mostly because she goes back and forth to china ever so often and likely doesnt have plans to stay in the states for long periods of time. Also in all my years of college and some uni, i havent seen a single American dating a FOB chinese girl ( i think it also has to do alot with the chinese student institutes that keep tabs on Chinese students , if one were to date a foreigner im sure it was raise red flags for the institute since theres alot of espionage rumors.

Anyway that same semester i still had some occasional stares and glares from chinese students i didnt know. Later however i met this really cool chinese guy that has been in the states for like 5 years, at first i thought he was american by his perfect accent and english but he said he lived in Florida for 5 years but goes back and forth between beijing. My closest friend was him at that college, i assumed he knew about my rumors with the girl but he overlooked it and we became close friends.

later i had an internship offer from a company to study abroad and work part time. They had offers all over the world. But i was most intretested in the chinese, korean and japanese offers. I was split between the three because each had something i wanted. I was still really eager to learn chinese and become involved with china but didnt like the pollution, japan was a country i always wanted to see but more for elements of nostaligia, korea was something i did become more interested because of the music at the time but i heard establishing friendships was more difficult than japan or chinese. In the end i chose korea and im glad i did. Around that same time i heard alot more anti foreigner sentiment and chinese was becoming more restrictive on foreigner rights like foreigners not being able to get certain jobs and not being able to take money out of the country, cant buy a house, cant become a citizen and what not (im sure you know about people getting arrested for having bb guns and stuff like that and the australian guy being sentenced for weed). With all of those occurances i took that as an answer that china was not the place for me, i really wanted to make it work for my friends and my assumed future but fate said otherwise, china is such a big part of the world but it slowly seems to be shutting its doors. This was aggrevated by the fact with the covid outbreak that forced me to head back to the states.

In the end i am alot happier with investing myself in korea as opposed to china, i feel for those who had to leave china and made alot of friends and established there lives there, i dont see much point in learning chinese if the country that speaks it is closing itself off.

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What are your thoughts?