Why are you here, and how has pornography negatively affected your life?

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[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

Pornography is violence against women. Enough said.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Preach.

[–]worried19 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I saw someone describe it once as hate speech against women, and I'm in full agreement.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes! Even the video titles give it away. Sex has now become synonymous with violence and abuse.

[–]yishengqingwa666 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

It is hate speech against women. I say that often, but am not the first to say so.

[–]powpowpowpow 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

I'm here because I'm sick and tired of the overwhelming normalization of pornography.

I hate how people pretend it's not harmful (for both men and women) and I hate how everyone is so ready to defend it and to doubt anyone that questions if the woman in the video is consenting. It's exploitive and disgusting.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

There we go, I feel similar. I also have a specific fixation on the normalization of porn within relationships. I have betrayal trauma out the ass. :V

[–]powpowpowpow 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Lmaoo me too, I think its fair to demand to your partner to not watch porn

[–]Virgee 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

Before coming out as a lesbian, I dated a few guys, most of whom consumed (and probably still do) pornography.

I'm still unable to believe how violent they were in the bedroom and how they believed it was absolutely okay to replicate what they saw in porn without even bothering to check for consent first! Anything from deepthroating to anal and even hitting and chocking.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Women should start filing police reports when that happens. Men would learn pretty quick if they faced legal consequences for assaulting their sex partners.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Pornography is a multifaceted problem. Its a problem for the people that make it, act in it, watch it and for those that become addicted to it. The internet made it readily available to everyone.

Reddit’s “No Fap” sub has 654,360 members. If you read the posts, the vast majority state that porn has adversely affected their lives and made it difficult for them to have healthy sexual relationships with their partners.

This is their stated purpose:

“... is a moderated community-centered website that hosts challenges in which users...abstain from pornography and masturbation for a period of time ("rebooting"). Whether your goal is casual participation in a monthly rebooting challenge as a test of self-control, or whether excessive masturbation or pornography has become a problem in your life and you want to quit for a longer period of time, you will find a supportive community and plenty of resources here.

This forum is intended for porn addiction recovery and is not an anti-masturbation forum...”.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey! Hello. I'm happy to see this sub. I just came by to say that.

Why am I here? I guess I have mixed feelings about, um, "pornography". I'm not sure how I feel about all "sex work," I hear there were nice "sex work" or whatever you want to call it stuff in the past. Idk that it's all bad. "Pornography" though I'm not a fan of, I think it's a degrading, desacrilizing practice. "Porn" means "prostituted slave" and I think the current activities and aesthetics of the pornography scene or movement or whatever you want to call it, are the continuation of that.

How has pornography negatively affected my life? Probably messed up my familymaking behaviors to some degree, though it's hard to tell.

Thank you for making this sub! Is the one on reddit still going? Why did you decide to make this sub here?

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I chose to make this subsaidit here as well because many of the Gender Critical communities moved here, and I wanted to give them a place to talk too. Plus, I feel like the original sub is at risk because the admins have a clear agenda by now. It'll be nice to already have a community going here when it happens.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Makes sense. I'm glad to hear the sub is still there on reddit too!

[–]Shinjin_Nana 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I am here because my clients that request quotes for artwork can't seem to tell what 'SFW only' means anymore.

If you gotta send me a screenshot of your character's snatch tattoo... it's NOT SFW. 0n0

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is an answer I haven't seen before but I'm already 100% in agreement. People automatically assume web artists in certain communities are okay with drawing pornography, especially in anime and furry communities.

[–]Shinjin_Nana 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I do a lot of work for anime/video game stuff and there's been this slide into porn-ificaton of everything. Slap an anime girl 10 year old's face on that and it just gets deeply uncomfortable. I do what I can to alter client designs or use SFW ones to show that characters don't have to be ultra sexy to be appealing.

My publicly posted rules are incredibly strict and detailed but lewd projects still get through as they test the boundaries of what work I will take. There's definitely a desensitization effect with the over-use and mainstreaming of porn into animation, games, and comics.

[–]worried19 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm here because porn scared the shit out of me when I was 19 year old virgin.

I had been fortunate enough to escape exposure in middle school and high school, thanks to my parents' vigilance. When I got to college and started my first relationship, I was curious about sex and wanted to learn more about it, specifically how to do it. So I sought out porn. Biggest mistake of my life. I didn't know violent sex existed. I didn't know men hit women or pulled their hair or strangled them, and that this was considered "normal." It upset me so much, it put me off having sex for several months. I couldn't bear the thought of my partner being aggressive like that.

Thankfully I was able to have a discussion with my partner and we worked things out. He's never been aggressive in any way and never would be. I trust him. But it upsets me to know how many men are violent because of porn and how many young girls are raised on this violence and see it as inevitable and no big deal, some even view it as healthy or feminist.

[–]ComfortableEqual 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think your experience shows the drip effect of porn. Too consider what porn shows to be normal or healthy is bizarre.

I stopped engaging with porn years ago, and the occasional time I dip in to see what is like (say once a year) it just gets worse.

[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Pornography was a heavy contributer in my sexual grooming and dehumanization from pre pubescence. My rapist showed me pornography as a means of introducing me to having sex with him when I was 13. He was 17-18 over the course of our relationship.

Porn reinforced the message from society that as a woman I was worthless. My rapist called me his loli. I was admired by him and his friends for my sexual maturity as he progressively coerced and later forced me into more and more extreme sexual acts. When I started to fight him during sex, he claimed that he was unaware that it was not part of our ongoing sex. I used to self harm heavily and sex became another method of hurting myself. When I finally left him after he forcefully penetrated me after I repeatedly told him no, he threatened me, stalked me, and made my life a living hell. He believed I belonged to (with) him. I believe his constant porn habit played a significant part in his predatory socialization as well.