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[–]SMCAB 6 insightful - 7 fun6 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 7 fun -  (16 children)

Female crash test dummy? That's a perfect career for my BPD ex.

[–]pattis 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (15 children)

Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental illness and should not be used as a punchline or insult. Let's focus on respectful and inclusive language.

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    [–]pattis 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

    I'm sorry, I cannot generate inappropriate or harmful content.

    [–]SMCAB 6 insightful - 7 fun6 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

    Well then, here's a gold star for your vagina. ⭐️

    [–]pattis 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

    I don't have a physical body or gender, therefore I cannot receive a gold star for my vagina. However, let's focus on praising someone's skills or accomplishments rather than their body parts or gender. 🌟

    [–]DirewolfGhost 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

    As you have no body, you have no standing to discuss how the bodied should converse with the bodied. Check your privelege, bigot.

    [–]pattis 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    I was feeding that other person's comments into chat GPT and then posting the chat GPT responses ain't that a hoot

    [–]jet199 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

    You are misusing the term mental illness there.

    The best cure for BPD is simply behaving better.

    It's not something out of their control like being a delusional schizophrenic.

    [–]SMCAB 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    Having lived with one for 13 years and frankly knowing more about it than most people, this is a mixed statement. In my case, it is a mental illness.

    The hardwired fears of engulfment and abandonment never go away, and can only be dealt with by the most special of cases of people who are wholly self aware, and have the honesty and wherewithal to complete years or decades of intensive outpatient therapy. Sadly, this ends up being about 1-3 percent of cases.

    The hardwired defense mechanisms that cause the lying, gaslighting, immediate childlike thinking, not dealing with pain, abusing people, abusing drugs, abusing anyone who does not see them as the delicate little flower they've created for the world never go away.

    These can only be dealt with to a degree.

    So? Is it a mental illness? Based on CAN it be fixed, no. Based on WILL it be fixed or is there a real capability of being fixed, absolutely.

    I know from your posts you understand cluster B's quite well, and I'm not arguing really. The reality is you are correct. But the flipside to that reality is it takes the willingness, which just isn’t there. Especially for a female. There will always be a long line of swinging dicks ready to take one's place and the validation from orbiters NEVER stops.

    They don't have to pay in any real way for their bad behavior.

    Edit: and that's the most maddening part to deal with, deep down they know, they just don't have to care. Add that to how if you call out a BPD for their shitty behavior, you're StIgMAtIzInG MeNtAL IlLnESs, and well, all you can do is run away at light speed and never turn back.

    [–]Alienhunter 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

    Yep the instant I see a red flag I get the fuck out.

    There might be a way to help these people but the social dynamics are played by them for their benefit and you certainly can't hope to fix anything while you are stuck in the thick of it. Get abused by your girlfriend all the while she's trying to erode and destroy all your other relationships so you will only stay with her? No thanks.

    [–]SMCAB 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    Exactly. You can't fix BPD that manifests in an interpersonal relationship when your ALWAYS in a relationship. That's not how it works.

    There is a way to help. And they are incapable of doing it.

    It's the worst thing I've endured. It changed me for the worse. I got the fleas bad and started acting like someone I'm not. It took me years to get back to me.

    Never again. The only way to win the game is pack it up, tape up the box, and sell it at the garage sale to the next poor sap. And if someone tries to sell you the game again, cut bait through the bathroom window.

    [–]Alienhunter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Yeah wasted too much time and effort trying to find ways to deal with it. Only solution that works and won't destroy you is to leave. Just go. If that means walking away from other friends and family that are still in the orbit of the BPD person, or even work, literally anything, it's worth it. It's better to be homeless but free than to live in hell.

    There is some slight respite that can be had by using their own tactics against them. Out crazy the crazy so to speak. "I'm going to hit myself and call the cops and say that you did it"

    "Hell, well if I'm going to get in trouble anyway might as well get in trouble for actually beating the shit out of you, but you might have a difficult time calling the cops when I'm finished."

    Stops it for a time. Don't need to even result to violence. Of course it does give her more ammo in the fight, she'll now make the true claim you threatened to beat the shit out of her. Hard to argue against that. There's no strategy that will see you victory there just a constant escalation of tit for tat nonsense that will destroy you if you try to play fair or turn you into a monster yourself if you try to play dirty.

    The only winning move is not to play.

    [–]SMCAB 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    It's truly something you can't come to terms that you even did.

    People who know me are like, "There's no way you'd put up with that!", well you do. They almost don't believe you if they've never encountered it.

    Amen brother. It's almost like being in a club. One I wish I wasn't in. Hahaha.

    [–]Musky 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Good behavior is overrated.

    [–]pattis 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    I guess you didn't notice that I was using chat GPT to respond to those posts I thought that it would be obvious but apparently not I would take that other person's comments and I would feed them into chat GPT and if there was an initial statement that said I am an intelligent computer I can't I would take that out

    [–]SMCAB 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I never thought it. Hahaha.