Genderspecial laments status as a basic bitch hetero parent, wonders if queering it up for her kids will make her feel special and interesting again.

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[–]Femaleisnthateful 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

But I feel isolated from that community, especially since I no longer have the social validation of being assumed queer.

'Social validation', eh? But surely this has nothing to do with why young people are joining the Alphabet Mafia, as she calls it herself, in statistically unlikely proportions.

This woman just strikes me as another middle aged mother mourning the loss of her freedom. Which is totally relateable for most all mothers, but she has to be special.

Frankly, she sounds insipid and immature. Smoke breaks in the alley? Are we in high school? Doesn't surprise me that she's leaning so hard into her Alphabet identity. It doesn't seem like she has much else going for her.

[–]LtGreenCo 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Days at the park replaced nights at the gay bar. The school drop-off line replaced the coffee shop. I am no longer taking smoke breaks in alleys with the same people I go to Pride with, intensely arguing about the merits of whatever media we consumed that week, projects we're working on, or who we're sleeping with (and why it's justified). Instead, I am on the playground, being asked by other suburban moms, "And what does your husband do for work?"

Bitch it's called adulthood. Nobody does this shit past their 20s. Your youth and your party days are over; you have responsibilities now, fucking deal with it. Everybody else does except they don't publicly whine about it like you do. Fucking hell how did this get published

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Goddamn how sad. A child raising a child.

[–]Greykittymomma 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

This garbage pissed me off so much I got myself banned on Twitter haha.

I'm bisexual, nobody else needs to know that unless we want to date. Wtf? Also, my kid doesn't need to know who I had sex with before they were born until muuuuch later if ever at all!

Garbage humans! Sad they are making bisexuals look stupid.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think the reason why she's so upset about this is frankly, I doubt she was "actually" bi. Or whatever that would even mean. She probably experimented in college and did all the LGBTQIA pride parades and whatever and made that her identity, instead of something more practical that she could take with her into later stages of her life like, an art, or a sport, or some other hobby.

So now that she has kids and is well into that lifestyle she's mad because she is seen as "just another housewife" like it's a bad thing but regardless it's the life she chose. Like please, you're complaining about living a normal life. That's literally the whole point of LGBTQ acceptance isn't it? Or what the point is supposed to be, nobody gives a shit about you and let's you live your life normally with your partner of choice right? Or would you prefer that random people on the playground run around throwing slurs at you so you can feel oppressed and relive your college activist fantasies again? I think the answer to that is yes. And that's stupid.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 8 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

That's literally the whole point of LGBTQ acceptance isn't it?

Yes, but it's not the point of Queer Theory. By replicating cisheteronormative ways of living, she's enacting oppression against other Queer bodies. She's now an Oppressor, she knows it, all her Queer friends know it, and she's desperate for attention redemption.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

True it does seem like Queer theory is taking the literal meaning of the word as "abnormal" and is therefore taking a very "anti-normal" stance. As such I don't see the theory being very useful other than a continual disruption of the status quo whatever that becomes.

I would say the self preservation instinct is perhaps the most normal one can get and therefore to be truly "queer" one must transgress that self preservation instinct themselves. Though such an observation will get you banned from the internet in most places. I feel like that mechanism is at least somewhat responsible for the higher rates of suicide even if it's not outrightly admitted.

[–]LordoftheFliesAmeri-kin 2.0. Pronouns: MegaWhite/SuperStraight/UltraPatriarchy[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I very much believe that this woman, based on the utter self-absorption and whinging in this article, will eventually end up cheating on and/or divorcing her husband. Her excuse for this will be that her marriage--and, if she's deep into the narcissism, the children as well--robbed her of "life opportunities" such as the ones she already admits to missing. In her quest to gratify herself, she will happily leave behind a wrecked relationship with her partner and children (unless she manages to turn the latter on the former).

[–]Musky༼⁠ ⁠つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ ⁠༽⁠つ 🐈 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

will eventually end up cheating on and/or divorcing her husband

That's what I was thinking too. Well, that she's gonna sleep with another woman anyways. Maybe the husband will get a threesome out of it. Bisexuality and monogamy don't mix that well, bisexuals are always missing half of what they want.

[–]LordoftheFliesAmeri-kin 2.0. Pronouns: MegaWhite/SuperStraight/UltraPatriarchy[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe the husband will get a threesome out of it.

Oh no, she strikes me as the sort who would absolutely lose her shit if husband dipped his dick into someone else. No, if anyone in that marriage gets a sidepiece, it'll be her and only her.

[–]alladd 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm bisexual and became a parent in a straight-passing relationship. I'm still grieving the loss of my queer identity.

This is literally pure narcissism - it implies that the identity only exists when percieved by others, and is not something you feel otherwise.

[–]handbananasrevenge 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Every parent gives things up. It’s part of life.

But she clearly loves herself more than she loves her kids.