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[–]thethrowawayReddit refugee 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Not exactly. I have never cut anyone out of my life because of them being trans or pushing the movement too much, but I do feel discluded when one friend group I'm in talks about trans issues. Im probably the only one of the 6 of us that believes you are your biological gender and any amount of surgery and hormones will not change that. Anyway I just go quiet when the topic comes up and I think they take the hint.

Sorry I got off track, to answer your question, I was about to get engaged to a girl (I already had bought a ring, we knew each other for 7 yrs at the time) when she broke up with me out of the blue because she needed to find herself. I took it pretty rough but ultimately dated someone else and got over her. She reconnected with me ~1 year later and said she is now "nonbinary" and getting a name change and everything. Well I was dating another girl at the time and I had no idea about trans stuff so I supported my ex.

Couple months later my gf and I broke up and I started talking to my ex more, she said she wants to try again with me and I said I dont know about the trans thing and Ill have to look into that first and see if its right for me. Well the more I looked at the community the more I was horrified by what I saw. I eventually found r/tumblrinacrion and I found plenty of people who agreed with me. I told my ex I wasnt comfortable dating a trans person (she took it ok) but we can remain friends.

So while we are still good friends, I would be married to this girl with children by now if it werent for trans stuff.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

So while we are still good friends, I would be married to this girl with children by now if it werent for trans stuff.

It's sad to think how many young people are screwing themselves out of fulfilling lives and relationships because of their unhealthy fixation on gender. Do you have any sense of what's driving her gender identity?

[–]thethrowawayReddit refugee 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do

Body dysmorphia, she was never comfortable with her chest. Its strange because before the trans stuff became mainstream, she was "okay" with it enough that it wasnt causing much of an issue.

It was only after she found out about trans stuff and started to identify as nonbinary that she became super self conscious about her chest and started being unable to shower or change without having a mental breakdown - which seemed like a huge backwards step to me. She uses the metaphor "its like noticing a pebble in your shoe, once you notice it itll bug you forever". So why push an ideology that makes young people less comfortable with their bodies and not more??

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A lot of women have issues with their breasts for other reasons, like sexual trauma. Not being 100% happy with every aspect of your sex doesn't make you trans. Now if you despise every aspect of it, then it's a different matter. But most trans stuff is just normal complaints or internalized dislike of your own gender for other reasons.