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[–]Femaleisnthateful 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

So while we are still good friends, I would be married to this girl with children by now if it werent for trans stuff.

It's sad to think how many young people are screwing themselves out of fulfilling lives and relationships because of their unhealthy fixation on gender. Do you have any sense of what's driving her gender identity?

[–]thethrowawayReddit refugee 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I do

Body dysmorphia, she was never comfortable with her chest. Its strange because before the trans stuff became mainstream, she was "okay" with it enough that it wasnt causing much of an issue.

It was only after she found out about trans stuff and started to identify as nonbinary that she became super self conscious about her chest and started being unable to shower or change without having a mental breakdown - which seemed like a huge backwards step to me. She uses the metaphor "its like noticing a pebble in your shoe, once you notice it itll bug you forever". So why push an ideology that makes young people less comfortable with their bodies and not more??

[–]INeedSomeTime 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Self-fullfilling prophecy in a way. Once you consider you may be transgender suddenly you try to confirm it. It's just so interesting to me how someone, who was all comfortable with themselves, suddenly get so miserable once they consider they may be trans.

[–]Airbus320 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Mm

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A lot of women have issues with their breasts for other reasons, like sexual trauma. Not being 100% happy with every aspect of your sex doesn't make you trans. Now if you despise every aspect of it, then it's a different matter. But most trans stuff is just normal complaints or internalized dislike of your own gender for other reasons.