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[–]Newzok 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

All the people I've met who labelled themselves demisexual, nb, pan etc have been autistic types. I have no idea what the connection is but I suspect this shit is a fandom to them.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I've seen autistic people say they go through puberty later which I doubt is true.

Maybe they mean they go through the emotional effects of puberty later, in their early twenties, which would make sense of why so many think there is something wrong with them when all their friends the same age are going crazy trying to get a boy/girlfriend.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Doesn’t need autism for that, helicopter parenting will delay maturity in teens used to being driven about and having all their issues handled by mummy.

I bet if they did a demographic analysis of teen girls transing/asexual and they’d find middle to upper middle class families, and a mother who does everything for them. It certainly looks that way when you look at boys being transed as toddlers/tweens.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Also being generally geeky will cause you to ignore relationships until later.

Introverts will use all sorts of distractions to avoid social interactions, including learning.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Definitely, but geeky types have existed for time immemorial, helicoptered kids are a new invention and would add a layer of explanation for the surge (along with social contagion, internet access etc).

Haidt and Twenge have both talked and written at length about it.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. The rise in helicopter parenting can be attributed to a lot of social problems now. It existed in the past but for various reasons was much less common.

Like most kids are going to get coddled a bit by their mothers usually but there's enough of a dynamic between society, the other parent, family, etc to kinda cull that and get the kid away from it a bit when things go off the rails. Recently though I think with the kind of atomization of society it's become far more prevalent and people don't really step in. Sometimes teenage rebellion will fix it, but some kids seem to remain useless well into their 20's and 30's.

I kinda prefer the term bulldozer parents for these cause it's not just the parents hovering around watching the kids constantly and not letting them make their own mistakes, that's bad enough but at least you're making the kids do shit even if you're treating them like they live in 1984, bulldozer parents just straight up remove the obstacles from their kids way. Kid has a problem at school? Parent fights their battle for them. Adult teenagers Xbox breaks, parents call the company for them. Kid has an issue with their grade in a college class, parent calls the school and fights the grade for them. Kid gets turned down for a job interview? Parent calls the company and complains.

Like goddamn of course your kid is a useless lump and emotional trainwreck.

Like can you imagine what your teenage years would be like if your parents called your date and asked them out for you? Won't be getting very many dates. I'd think these kids would likely end up feeling aesexual. Nothing made me lose interest in someone faster as a teen than my parents meddling.