I'm asexual

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[–]Alienhunter糞大名 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'd do some research into the connection between autism and self described aesexuality personally. I find it somewhat a compelling argument that autistic people don't really have the same cognitive processing as normal people and make decisions and judgements at are not necessarily in line with what most people would consider normal. I've noticed a few that don't seem to get that instinctual understanding of human relationships and don't understand why certain behaviors are sexually acceptable in public and certain are not. And while they certainly don't lack for sexual function I don't know if they are cognitively aware of their own sexual excitement. I think it's a bit like the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing.

Also see the opposite in people with down syndrome and the like. Sexual drive works completely normally, cognitive development hasn't quite gotten to the point where they can think "I shouldn't act on my desire to kiss this person".

[–]JerzyZulawski 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I used to be active in the asexual community and have been to 3 asexuality conferences... basically every male asexual I've spoken to is asexual because they have a fetish that's the only thing that turns them on. So a straight asexual guy might have no interest in sex with women because the only activity he enjoys is, say, being trampled by a woman in stilettos, or watching a hot chick pop balloons, or jerking off to a girl wearing a plaster cast. The kink activity takes the place of sex. A lot of guys in the asexual community are like this and closeted - they identify as asexual publicly because they're ashamed of their fetish and/or because it's easier to explain to people. I left the asexual community before the wokeness completely took over and partly because I realized what was going on under the surface (at least on the male side) was unhealthy.

[–]Athelhilda4 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What about the women?

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think for women it's just "normal", because men are usually expected to be almost entirely visual. I also suspect this fetish thing might be the only way to release male sexual urges in the case that there's no sexuality. Women are generally no less horny but it's not really a bodily need for them. For men it's almost like going to the bathroom because they release something rather than merely receiving it.