I'm asexual

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[–]FlyingKangaroo 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

TBH real “asexual” people exist, not every single person wants to have sex in their life and that’s ok. What’s not ok is how they turned it into another orientation where it clearly doesn’t belong in the LGB/LGBTQ.

That being said, there is still some part of people who felt like that term described them - and now if they have enough brain cells, they’re against the queer crowd who tells them to feel oppressed, feel queer, etc. Too bad they’re not heard enough.

And yes, the “asexuals can have sex, watch porn, masturbate!!!” is unfortunately a “valid” stance of some people, perhaps spicy straights/spicy homos/spicy bis but also people brainwashed by the queer propaganda. This is really gross. Anyone who dares to criticize this stance must be bigot, because they don’t know what logic is.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'd do some research into the connection between autism and self described aesexuality personally. I find it somewhat a compelling argument that autistic people don't really have the same cognitive processing as normal people and make decisions and judgements at are not necessarily in line with what most people would consider normal. I've noticed a few that don't seem to get that instinctual understanding of human relationships and don't understand why certain behaviors are sexually acceptable in public and certain are not. And while they certainly don't lack for sexual function I don't know if they are cognitively aware of their own sexual excitement. I think it's a bit like the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing.

Also see the opposite in people with down syndrome and the like. Sexual drive works completely normally, cognitive development hasn't quite gotten to the point where they can think "I shouldn't act on my desire to kiss this person".

[–]JerzyZulawski 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I used to be active in the asexual community and have been to 3 asexuality conferences... basically every male asexual I've spoken to is asexual because they have a fetish that's the only thing that turns them on. So a straight asexual guy might have no interest in sex with women because the only activity he enjoys is, say, being trampled by a woman in stilettos, or watching a hot chick pop balloons, or jerking off to a girl wearing a plaster cast. The kink activity takes the place of sex. A lot of guys in the asexual community are like this and closeted - they identify as asexual publicly because they're ashamed of their fetish and/or because it's easier to explain to people. I left the asexual community before the wokeness completely took over and partly because I realized what was going on under the surface (at least on the male side) was unhealthy.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm similar, but I don't hide and my fantasy often doesn't include other people at all. My guess is since the male sex drive is a bodily need it has to find some way to get it out, even without sexual attraction.