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[–]Alienhunter糞大名 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

I think it's mostly straight men who think they aren't attractive because duh, if you're a straight man you're not going to be impressed by what you see in the mirror. Lol.

Women do the same thing, I can't being to to tell you how many women have told me they are ugly, too fat, or whatever else, no you're fine, maybe you won't be fashion model but if you think you aren't attractive that's because you're not gay.

[–]QueenBread 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Exactly. The difference being that straight women don't go like "I don't find myself or other women sexy, so that means women aren't sexy in general". But straight men sometimes will go "I don't find myself or other men sexy, so that means men aren't sexy in general". So dumb.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know I don't think you have the whole femcel presence that you get on the internet with mancels just cause of sex difference in behavior of who approaches who, but I've had some pretty weird talks with women who are stupid like that. I remember having one argument with a woman who maintained the position that breasts were not sexually attractive and that men were wrong to be sexually attracted to them. Lol ok. Like I think it would be weird for women to be attracted to their own bodies if they were straight, but you're just gonna be like, I don't find it attractive so no one should. Lol. Ok. Let's just ignore what men are interested in who cares what they think. It's not like I'm ever gonna date them I'm straight! Oh wait.

[–]alladd 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

whenever people pull this self-pity shit i always just go "why would someone want to fuck themselves?"

how narcissistic would you have to be to pull a Ciara in the mirror?

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I don't think it's s case of wanting to fuck yourself.

You compare yourself with an idealized image of what you consider to be masculine or feminine and then get depressed because you don't have the body of a porn star and think you are ugly. Which is retarded because you know full well that your standards of others isn't near as strict as that, I hope.

Like I get that girls are worried about being fat and that's good thing, but being a literal toothpick is also unattractive as fuck. People don't wanna fuck someone that looks like a skeleton addicted to cigarettes. Eat some damn meat.

[–]jet199 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's plain not true.

If I go out in a group with a stick thin friend they will be the one who gets the most attention and the most offers even if her face is like a beak.

It's definitely attractive to a large number of guys for some reason or another.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are we talking stick thin by American standards or stick thin by starving African standards? American thin isn't really that thin, but anorexic thin is pretty unattractive imho. But who knows, I'm not exactly normal.

[–]Wanderingthehalls 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do people really not find themselves attractive? I like how I look quite a bit. Like I'm not going to wank off to my reflection or anything but I like my natural shape and I like that I generally stay fit enough to look relatively close to my best potential version of myself. I have lots of physical faults and I am well aware that not everyone, or even most people will be attracted to me but overall I genuinely like how I look.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Think it's just the subtle difference between having self esteem and narcissism. I have the opposite problem where I don't care enough about my appearance to bother with much. Would be easier to stay in shape if I was disgusted by what I saw so I could use that as motivation to eat better and exercise more. Same reason why casinos don't have mirrors.

[–]Wanderingthehalls 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I used to be like that. I got quite overweight but was still fine with what I looked like so didn't really care. I tend to put fat on very evenly, so I was fat but with a nice enough shape, so not too bothered. I was pretty lucky to fall into a sport that I absolutely love right before middle age. So I started taking care of my body to be the best I can be at that. How I look is secondary to how I perform but I'd be a liar if I said that how I look now doesn't make me happy. And that I don't have a massive sense of relief that I pulled out of my unhealthy habits before menopause fucked up my chances to get myself on track.