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[–]The_Best_Yak_Ever 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is one of the things I can’t get past. I’m sorry, but I couldn’t tell you what being a woman feels like. I was born a male. I grew up a male. Society treated me as a male. I’ve never had a period. I’ve never had breasts. I have no idea what feminine arousal or climax feels like. Society never treated me as a woman. All of those aspects are critical. No matter what you want, you can’t really say you “feel” like the opposite sex, if you have no point of reference.

I think that’s something that annoys me the most. It’s appropriating an experience that you haven’t actually had. Someone may wish they were born the opposite sex, but to claim you somehow intrinsically understand the experience by nature of your “gendered” brain.

I can be compassionate and respectful of people with gender dysphoria. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone! But it doesn’t mean I accept that it means they are truly the same as a biological man or woman.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It doesn't feel like anything. The only way someone could say that is if their personality steps outside of gender roles and they think they're obligated to stick to stereotypes.

Well I shouldn't say it doesn't feel like anything. But that feeling happens as a result of your sex characteristics, it's no inborn identity. No one can feel like the opposite sex, except partially with medical interventions. That can be a serious problem if you don't like that feeling or the abilities it gives and takes away from you. Obviously a properly developing person would naturally be inclined to like them, sometimes fiercely, so that those functions are fulfilled and their vessel actually works. It's tragic when this doesn't happen correctly.