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[–]EVERYBODYPANIC 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I'm a happily married guy in a small town. A good friend, age 25, is living with an older man but wishes for marriage. For happily ever after. I explained to her that she will probably never marry, as she is physically locked away at all hours from available men. Step one of marriage is to be available, and as long as she lives with a man, all other men politely shy away. So if she ever leaves him, she needs to proceed to step number two: Put herself out there. My daughter took up hiking wilderness trails. Another friend took up bowling and baseball. Daughter to be married in October, friend has options. Getting to pick and choose.

You are in a position to take step two, to get out there. Travel, and as the lockdowns ease up, go bowling, go to sports games, Ideally travel to Britain or Ireland (they love us over there).

But for you, Step Number One is gotta get your nose out of the books. Cannot meet people even in a park if your not looking available and interesting. Heck, take a Frisbee to a park and ask someone to throw it with you. Testosterone is a powerful drug and a mere nudge activates it. The more demure nudge is to get stuck/need rescue/need advice. Men only become knights in shining armor if you first become a damsel in distress. - But please, figure out what you'd like and go fishing. Speaking of fishing...

[–]talking_orange_69[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Before COVID I did put myself out there. I am about the shyest person you would ever meet yourself but I would gather the courage to make small talk with strangers at the bus stop. Heck, I have approached complete strangers in a coffee shop and asked them if they would like to grab a coffee sometimes. I joined hobby clubs and went hiking. However men either ignore me or never follow up when I ask them out. Trust me if I had a choice I would get out more.

I am doing online dating now but the response is the same. I get a couple of men who would message me but would ghost after a couple of messages. Photofeeler rated my pics 8-9 on attractiveness so I know my pics are good. Men are not just attracted to me.

[–]EvilNick 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Photofeeler rated my pics 8-9 on attractiveness so I know my pics are good.

I mean..... do you. Could still be a good pic of an unattractive person