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[–]JasonCarswell 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

No one is unworthy, though some try to be.

"The One" and "love" are fiction and illusions all in the mind. People who give "unconditional love" are projecting something broken.

IMHO, do your best to earn a position of being valued and respected by your words and deeds. Work with what you've got. Not everyone has looks, wit, integrity, humour, or any number of things. Be your best self and put that out there.

Maintain hope, but don't build it up unrealistically. Cultivate the best life you can for yourself by yourself, and if something else happens prepare for the worst and hope for the best and be ready to roll with the changes that will come with that as nothing ever goes according to plan.

I don't know you, so all of that is vague. If you are serious, you'll write out a list of qualities and things you're after (not superficial or material) and take steps to be in the presence of those traits (more difficult in lockdown) with signals that you're single and looking, from being subtle to as obvious as you like, such as a shirt or pin that says, "I'm single and looking."

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

I appreciate the effort but I really don't have the ability to be in a relationship. There is a lot that has happened that I would rather not bring up here but if you were on the subs on reddit you may know of it. I had a devastating year last year.

[–]JasonCarswell 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I don't know, but I hope it's behind you. I had a worse dozen years. Ironically 2020 was my best year since 2007.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

No its not behind me at all. Hopefully a few years from now the pain will be less severe. But I can honestly say that the things I went through have made me very certain that I am not relationship material.

[–]JasonCarswell 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

In that you know yourself, you're ahead of most.

Life is suffering, as Buddhists say.