Hope and faith aren't in my vocabulary. I used to be in ridiculously harmful negative thought patterns about this stuff. I used to see women as a bag of holes, nothing more, and I had good reason, the ones I knew and met were bags of holes, it's that simple. But, there are good women out there, they may be fewer and farther between than they would like to admit, and I believe they are, but they do exist. For me it was changing what I was attracted to. That helped a lot.

Then I reached all steps you mention, with addition of one, the last one. I found out that "those good women out there" are good only did Chads and they are exactly the same towards me. The behaviour of people isn't determined by their inner behaviour, rather by me and how I look.

Also, even if such women would exist (I don't believe it anyway) then they are taken.