there was a good guide on r/short.

"Wear them to the grocery store you shop at every weekend? no. Wear them around your campus halfway through your degree? no. Wear them around friends or family? no. Wear them out to one-time festivals or carnivals? yes. Wear them to the club? yes. Wear them on first dates? yes. Wear them to the gas station or a liquor store you visit infrequently? yes"

basically, if you're worried, just go places you don't frequent. I don't care, my boss is a giga stacy and she's 100% noticed my lifts. My roommates have too, my roommates are like 5ft 10 and 6ft 1. The one who's 5ft 10 always does a double take when i'm wearing them because we're the same height after. Wear them while you brush your teeth and practice walking uphill in them. As long as you don't scrape your feet on the ground or walk slightly angled because of the positioning, no one can tell.