Transgender is the perfect example of people stepping on their own toes.

Note to the author. It doesn't need to be so complicated. You are making it complicated. You are elevating some idea you have in your head of what "female" means to the point that it has zero to do with a simple observation that has been around for millions of years. And that's all female needs to mean. Female is the sex that bears young; male is the sex that fertilizes the egg. See how easy that is? I have no idea what ideas you have about what it means to be "female", but whatever they are, they are just that: ideas. Nothing else. You can adopt or drop ideas instantaneously; we all do this regularly. When I was a kid, I believed there were skeletons in the hallway outside my room. Now I don't believe that. Because this is all just thought energy floating around in my mind. It's not real. Whatever you believe about being a woman, it's not real - just thought. However you behave makes zero difference to sex. I am a male. I have a lot of behaviors that appear more traditionally "female". But so what?

Keep it simple. The physical manifestation is what it is, and who cares about any of the rest of it? Your life will be far simpler and happier if you realize putting as much energy as you are putting into an idea set is unnecessary and easily dropped. Focus on other things. You'll be happier for it.