You think it’s fine for 12 year olds to view pornography? I don’t think it should be normalized for a child to be using vibrating sex toys which the internet searches alone for will bring up a plethora of search results accompanied by other things she can’t grasp. As her father he absolutely has a right to dictate what she should be able to view on the internet and saying otherwise is absurd. On the other hand OP can handle the situation better so he doesn’t make it seem like his daughter should be ashamed by her sexuality and have both parents sit down and talk through this situation in depth and show that exploring these feelings is healthy. But letting a 12 year old roam the internet for porn and vibrators alone is ludicrous. OP does not, in fact, have to support the fact that his 12 year old wants a vibrator... that doesn’t make him some tyrannical patriarch, it means he doesn’t believe his 12 year old is ready for that sort of thing and in general I think it would be hard for any father to grasp with a daughter of that age. That’s my 2 cents.