thousands of reddit creeps coming out of the wood work to advocate parents to buy their 12 year old a sex toy.

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[–]toxic_masculinity 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

stop policing masterbation.

[–]poestal[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You think it’s fine for 12 year olds to view pornography? I don’t think it should be normalized for a child to be using vibrating sex toys which the internet searches alone for will bring up a plethora of search results accompanied by other things she can’t grasp. As her father he absolutely has a right to dictate what she should be able to view on the internet and saying otherwise is absurd. On the other hand OP can handle the situation better so he doesn’t make it seem like his daughter should be ashamed by her sexuality and have both parents sit down and talk through this situation in depth and show that exploring these feelings is healthy. But letting a 12 year old roam the internet for porn and vibrators alone is ludicrous. OP does not, in fact, have to support the fact that his 12 year old wants a vibrator... that doesn’t make him some tyrannical patriarch, it means he doesn’t believe his 12 year old is ready for that sort of thing and in general I think it would be hard for any father to grasp with a daughter of that age. That’s my 2 cents.

[–]catlover1019 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As a father he has exactly as much right as the mother to dictate what their daughter should be able to view on the internet. How much that right is is really up for interpretation.

If "accidentally" finding porn is really a concern, then the parents could do the actual buying part themselves. However, I have no reason to believe that porn is harmful to children, at least not in any other sense than that it might give them false expectations. These just need to be tempered.

Chances are that if she wants a vibrator, she's already well-versed in porn, at least the type she currently enjoys, being a gen-z-er is likely is written or illustrated form, which is a lot easier to see as fictional, and not build expectations for sex around it anyway.

Kids that age masturbate ll the time. I sure did. I always just used my right hand, which was good enough for me, being a guy, but I don't see how using better tools could somehow make it bad or harmful. Also, "he" (post is fake) went on Reddit, and asked the question. If he didn't think his parental "authority" would be challenged, than he obviously had no idea how the internet works.

I'm firmly of the option that the freedoms of children should only be limited when absolutely necessary, which I don't think it is at all here. I think it's just the BS "sex s for adults" mentality at work, that makes him see his daughter as somehow a non-sexual being, which is just silly.

[–]poestal[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm firmly of the option that the freedoms of children should only be limited when absolutely necessary, which I don't think it is at all here.

children need structure, guidance, and boundaries in place. you are a parent, their "caregiver" not their friend. if they have full reigns on how to be raised then it's going to be nothing more than junkfood dinners and videogames over homework and proceeds to get worse as they age. if you chose to let a child to dictate your household and let themselves rule then you are no longer a caregiver or parent.

[–]catlover1019 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Keeping their future on track is something I would consider necessary. What's not necessary and should absolutly be avoided is arbitrary restrictions that don't exist to ensure the child has a good future, or to keep them safe.