My GF said I am not affectionate enough, so now I treat her like my dog. My GF loves it.

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[–]Chipit[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Because that's how it is. People who feel emotions intensely think that anyone who doesn't feel emotions as strongly as they do must be some kind of defective human. They get really nasty and accuse others of being unfeeling robots. It's offensive that everyone doesn't have the same views on feelings.

[–]Dashing-Dove 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

That sort of assessment is too absolutist to me. I agree that there are many people incapable of understanding those unlike themselves, but I've also known hearts-on-sleeves with endless empathy, even for seemingly unfeeling robots, and they learn to appreciate subtler demonstrations of affection. Sometimes they're even a complementary pair, balancing each other. For example, one taking the lead in social situations and the other serving as an anchor of reason. The couple I'm picturing has problems too, but they aren't insurmountable, and their marriage has endured for about 20 years.

[–]Chipit[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's the personality trait of Openness. People with high Openness look on the rest of us who aren't high Openness as less than human. Look up Big 5 personality traits.

[–]Dashing-Dove 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Wouldn't the relevant Big 5 traits be extraversion and agreeableness? Besides that, I'm high in openness and see it as a potentially catastrophic mindset. It's also lessened with age, and even back during my university days, I didn't see low openness individuals as subhuman. There are smooth brain characteristics more deserving of that status.

[–]Chipit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most high Openness people do. If we can't feel like they do, there's something terribly wrong with us.