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[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

If that's what you want or have I'm not knocking it. It seems unnecessarily limiting to me.

If you do have kids, the parents should stay committed to, supportive of, and focused on their children and each other (and that includes sexual satisfaction).

And when the kids are grown and raising their own families, the woman's sex drive is gone after menopause (sometimes it goes up, people are different) but the man still wants physical affection, the men divorce their wives and get a younger model. Instead of just increasing the scope of your union, you dissolve and replace it. Or cheat. Or live unhappily.

I don't see that as better. I think the most important thing about a committed relationship, not only marriage, is it's forming a union, you and that person against the world, a team not only to raise kids but to build a life together. Some people are okay with bigger teams than others.

[–]Smarterthanlastweek2 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

And when the kids are grown and raising their own families,

And at that point you effectively don't have kids again, so it doesn't really matter (assuming the wife has been maintaining her career), and you can do what you want, as long as you're upfront about it. But the wife deciding sex is done and she no long has to provide it while the man continues to support her doesn't work. Once she starts declining her wifely duties, he should be able to look elsewhere, and shouldn't have to pay a financial penalty for it.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

assuming the wife has been maintaining her career)

Who's raising the kids if both parents are working? We doubled our labor force, halved our value, and work twice as hard for the same thing while neglecting our children. I don't see that as a good thing. And then to just abandon someone you love for the sake of an already non-traditional modern family?

[–]Smarterthanlastweek2 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Who's raising the kids if both parents are working?

While the kids are small, one parent can take time off to raise them. Once they start going to school, they can start working part time. When they're in their teens they can work full time. But I agree, a full time stay at home parent is best if you can afford it. If we didn't do so much overseas manufacturing there would be a greater demand for American labor, and the American worker could demand a higher wage.