Life as a woman vs life as a man

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[–]Vulptex 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (17 children)

The male mental quality is also significantly lower. During puberty almost everything is completely renovated, and that includes the brain. More "fun" abilities get thrown away to focus entirely on more practical ones for the male (aka worse) role in nature such as hunting and sports. Females retain the much broader range of cognitive abilities we had during childhood. Male emotions also completely change, with everything becoming monotone; post-puberty a man can experience the best thing that ever happened to him and still not feel as happy as he would on a normal day in his childhood. Even your physical senses become much less vivid. The only thing men can feel with any degree of intensity is anger, and our baseline shifts from mostly positive by default to mostly negative. This makes us much better warriors and providers but doesn't do ourselves any favors. Even our bodies develop uncomfortably and ugly in exchange for greater strength. Women only get breasts and a uterus, both of which can be dealt with fairly easily in most cases. As a male your entire life becomes all about sacrificing yourself for females because they're more valuable to nature. So if you end up asexual or something like me and you're not a sex worshipper, your life is basically not even worth living because you've been redeveloped in every way for that above all else, and it's now the only purpose available to you in life.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

We're actually born with a uterus and every one of the egg cells we'll ever have. We get adipose tissue instead of more useful muscle. Also the menstrual cycle, which can be disruptive to life in unpleasant ways and unpredictable.

I will never understand men that don't appreciate their own bodies. It's not ugly, it's natural. Not wanting to have your life devoted towards women or even sex is possible, plenty of men do it.

[–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

The muscle isn't that useful. It's actually more uncomfortable than it's worth, unless you're trying to become a blue collar worker or join the military.

I'd love if all I had to deal with is breasts and a uterus. I could get those shut down with pills or removed completely if I wanted to. As a male, almost every single aspect of your body and brain changes drastically for sexual roles, and it's in such a way that there's no way in hell that 90% of it can ever be undone. In many species the male dies immediately after mating because that's his only purpose in life. Human males don't die but the dimorphism is the same concept, their personal well being doesn't matter at all as long as they benefit females and the species.

And just because it's natural doesn't mean it isn't ugly. Ugliness and gross body features are actually intended because it makes males look meaner and more threatening, which does not do us any favors; again it's for the female partner's benefit.

And yeah we don't have to devote our lives to women or sex; but our ability to do anything else has been shot down by our pubertal development, so if you're not into that you're left stranded with no reason to live.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

It's muscle. If it's physically uncomfortable, and you haven't done anything (ie: work out) to make it physically uncomfortable, there's something wrong with your body. It's extraordinarily useful. Skeletal muscle does more than just look swank and help your body with physical movement. It contracts to help circulation for not only blood products, but lymph (layman's: your body's defense fluid). It allows you to perform physical tasks with more ease than if you're female. We can work out and even roid up, but it will never be the same as male strength. Your basic physiology caters to this, with the male body even carrying more red blood cells than the female's to give extra oxygen. Your hearts are even larger. If you can't think of tasks that benefit from having more default strength than just blue collar jobs or military shit, you should probably start looking that up.

You are grossly, and I mean GROSSLY oversimplifying human female physiology. The uterus sits pretty much right over the bladder. If it's removed, along with the ovaries (main sex hormone providing component for females), you surge into early menopause. This puts you at risk for osteoporosis, your vaginal epithelium degrades, the natural vaginal pH increases and puts you at risk for infections, all of the other finely tuned processes going on get fucked up, and then you might be at risk for vaginal prolapse to top it off.

We have far more complicated social structures set up around the world than to reproduce. That's a base level evolutionary call that is ignored by plenty, and as higher thought creatures, we can make decisions beyond procreation.

Your physical appearance doesn't benefit women outside of us being impressed or repulsed, and us wanting to take those genes onward. There's a protection aspect of a masculine form, but we're not constantly in physical altercations in civilized societies. Why are you pissed about sexual dimorphism? You're not dying during childbirth. You're expected to do cool shit and then move on.

You jerk off and move on. It's genuinely that simple. Seek out having your testosterone levels checked. This isn't petty recommendation, it's out of concern.

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Since female humans are universally happier than males, even in patriarchal nations where they're oppressed, I think we can be pretty sure that their internal chemistry is working better for them than males.

I'm also pissed about dimorphism because I'm practically a child or an alien trapped in an adult human male's body. Pre-puberty my life was going pretty good, and then everything changed and every single change was a negative for me. And it's irritating because women barely have to change at all, they basically just get bigger, start their sexual function, and grow breasts and that's it. It's not easy for either I don't think, but at least women can mostly continue their lives as normal, whereas for me nothing will ever be the same ever again, and not in a good way. I'm forced to accept that I am now nothing but a disposable machine for the species. I still have free will, but as the specialized sex my ability to function outside these roles is very limited. My emotions will always be crap from now on, and I'll never be good at all the fun stuff I like doing again, because that brainpower was relocated to sexual functions. Even my physical senses will never be as vivid, in exchange for being able to detect movement better for hunting and war.

No one will ever care about me nearly as much either, because I'm expendable and that's just the card I was dealt. Society will always hold very high expectations from me and want me to give the fruits of my labor to them and to women. If you don't believe me, why are men almost always breadwinners and women, if they work, usually get a part time hobby job that's not serious about making income? Why are women always saved first from disasters? Why do women get handed everything in a divorce? Why do women only get 1/6th the prison time as men for the exact same crime? Why are men homeless but women cared for by society? Why are men considered creeps for the same things women are applauded for? Why does the man have to pay on the date? Why are men scolded for having personal issues but women are given support? Why are men always portrayed as workaholics but women as hobbyists and the ones making purchases (with mens' money usually)?

My physical appearance looks mean and scares people and even animals and I hate that because that's not what I'm like at all. It's meant to make me a more successful protector for women but I couldn't care less about that. My body structure is uncomfortable and optimized for utility over personal well-being, especially in the skull. It's not immediately noticeable but for example my eyes are squished into my head and the skin is stretched around the extra bone, so it's uncomfortable and I can't see as well. And I'm going to start exchanging my head hair for gross hairs everywhere else. It's natural but it sucks for us.

It allows you to perform physical tasks with more ease than if you're female.

Which means you're expected to do them. And I can't say I use my superior strength for anything I actually care about.

Just because women have challenges in life doesn't discredit mens'. All around women definitely got the sweet end of the deal, especially in first world countries with equal rights ("equal" usually meaning in favor of women over men). Feminism will tell you otherwise, but that is again because of our instinct to care about women over men because they are more valuable to the species. This poster is not the only FtM transitioner who will tell you this story. It turns out "male privilege" isn't all that great, and there's plenty of "female privilege" that never gets discussed.

[–]jet199 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Of course one of the best things for male mental health is having employment. It gives purpose, routine and opportunity for socialising.

So of course all the privileged left want to have a high wage/high unemployment economy (in the West, not in the poor countries they but their shit from) and think great, generous welfare is a fair trade off for men being out of work.

Or the really lazy ones want people not to work at all because they enjoy sitting on their arses all day and can chat to their mother so think the same will be good for everyone else.

[–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

It's not good for mental health. It's stressful and taxing. Women should be willing to work their fair share too, but men will always simp for them so they almost never have to. When they do, it's just as a personal career and not with any serious breadwinning goal, men almost always have to do something that pays the bills for everyone over something they like. The moral of the story is males have to do all the hard and boring stuff and females get to have all the fun and reap most of the rewards. Yeah no one ever said life was fair but this is ridiculous.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

To add to that, testosterone blocks oxytocin, we don't even experience love as strongly as women do. Which serves a practical purpose but it kinda sucks.

Although on the plus side, men look better as they age to a point, and we aren't as susceptible to being overwhelmed by emotions.

[–]Vulptex 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I think women still look better. Men are less healthy, get fatter, grow hair everywhere but their head, don't live as long, look older at the same age, etc. They're almost always burned out and miserable because life. If they're not they're probably pretending because males are not allowed to burden other people with their problems like females are.

Testosterone seems to block everything good and generally make life unsatisfying and negative. Granted it blocks most strong negative things too, but it enhances anger and you are almost always super irritable, and it generally shifts your baseline from slightly positive to slightly negative. I'd say feeling worse sometimes is worth it to feel a lot better the rest of the time. Plus I remember as a kid getting over things pretty quickly whereas now it bothers me all day or even long term, because I'm unable to feel what I need to feel.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

and it generally shifts your baseline from slightly positive to slightly negative

Testosterone generally makes you feel awesome, you may just be depressed.

[–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It can for some people but it also blocks most emotions and feelings.

[–]JasonCarswell 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (6 children)

That would sound grim indeed, except the wonders of recreational drugs can enhance your emotions, meaning, and purpose, along with a myriad of pros and cons.

[–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Yeah, for a tiny bit until my mind adjusts to them and it makes me even worse off and I need them just to feel like I do now. And I'd get addicted and it'd take up all my money and then I'd be burned to death in an oven when I can't pay anymore, or end up in prison for the rest of my life.

I'm doomed no matter what I do. I don't care about impregnating and competing for women and laboring all my life for society, yet it's all I exist for. Until the day I die I can never be happy again, nor can half the world unless they fake it or exaggerate the extremely dull joy they can get. But somehow the rest of them like it because gets them sex and spreading their genes and dominance and that's somehow worth it. Of course if they were women they'd just get 10x better versions of most of that handed to them anyway.

[–]JasonCarswell 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Yep. Existential angst sucks.

I can't afford drugs now, but I make sure to have vitamin D, ginseng, and occasional caffeine pills and enough sleep for my /s/WellBeing and /s/Fulfillment (2 subs I recently created - want to co-mod them?). These are different than fleeting happiness.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

You could grow bud or shrooms, neither costs a lot to get into.

[–]JasonCarswell 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Shrooms would be good. Food would be better. My landlord's a dick.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'd love to be able to grow food in any meaningful way. I'm trying potatoes, see how that works, but my patio just doesn't get enough sunlight to grow anything but peppers and herbs so far.

[–]JasonCarswell 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I've got a bunch of potatoes growing, maintenance free. I should post some photos. Don't even know when I should dig them up.

[–]TurtleBanks 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

"People are uncomfortable around me now that I wear my mental disorder as a costume"

[–]JasonCarswell 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I wear mine "costume" on purpose to filter out the conformist-only sheeple.

" Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. "

https://infogalactic.com/info/User:JasonCarswell

[–]jet199 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Half of this is likely because people know they are trans and assume they have a mental illness or/and personality disorder rather than because they believe they are a guy.

The whole "people avoid me now" thing speaks to that.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

If you put a woman on testosterone she'll basically become a male with breasts and a uterus. Hormones cause puberty, and female puberty doesn't do much to them so you can just send them through male puberty and they'll literally become male, and no one will ever know the difference because there really isn't one. So that is not likely the reason.

Unfortunately the reverse does not work at all, because the person has already developed male and you can't undo that by sending them through a process that does little else than cause breasts to grow.

[–]skeeter 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

As a born Male, my much overlooked and somewhat overweight and overworked PENIS makes vibrations and rumbling sensations.

Ask me anything!

[–]JasonCarswell 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?

[–]Touchngo 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?

African or a European?

[–]JasonCarswell 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Hirundo rustica.

[–]hfxB0oyA 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Hirundo rustica

About 20 MPH.

[–]JasonCarswell 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

TIL. Thanks.

[–]hfxB0oyA 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Hahaha. Welcome to the boys' club, sweetheart!

[–]Tarrock 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

s/wholesome

[–]TurbulenceImpact 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

hmmm its almost like "toxic masculinity" comes from somewhere... like its systemic...