I’m a liberal but...I’m not attracted to liberal men. "But no matter how much I try to tell myself to stop only viewing masculine men as potential dating/sex partners, I hit a mental block and I get hit with this huge wave of discomfort at the thought of being with a man who’s feminine."

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society expects people to behave in certain ways according to whether they have a penis or a vagina, even if the behaviors are entirely unrelated, but some people behave differently than the expectation.

I behave differently than the expectation. I actually recently got kicked off my discord Cripplingalcoholism server for having a relationship that isn't gender normative. Not even like I'm drastically bending social norms, my wife just makes more money than I do. That still invokes feelings of disgust. Also goes back to the sex thing. Alpha males who are old (bad providers) would be challenged.

Anyways, my point is that it doesn't mean I see myself as a woman just because I'm an atypical man.

I ain't sure how certain behaviors became associated with genitals, such as wearing make-up and shaving your legs, but others make more sense: women have kids, so naturally they take care of them, and that leaves men with the responsibility to work.

I really love the word ain't. Growing up my teachers liked to say "ain't ain't a word," but it's a nice southern touch if you ask me.

Gillette made shaving your legs a thing to sell razor blades. Seriously.

Make up is just about attracting a mate, lots of animals do it too.

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I actually recently got kicked off my discord Cripplingalcoholism server for having a relationship that isn't gender normative. Not even like I'm drastically bending social norms, my wife just makes more money than I do. That still invokes feelings of disgust.

Yeah, it's kind of similar to that. People tend to expect humans with penises to make more money than humans with vaginas.

I really love the word ain't.

Ain't you from Texas?

Growing up my teachers liked to say "ain't ain't a word,"

That's Yankee imperialism for ya. Empires always impose their language upon their colonies in order to strip the natives of their identity — that's what the federal school system was designed to do. The only way to save the South is to restore our tenth amendment right to educate our kids.

but it's a nice southern touch if you ask me.

It's not simply a "southern touch", it's a protest against imperialism! Honestly, if I had to choose one word to symbolize Dixie's struggle for sovereignty, it'd be "ain't".

Gillette made shaving your legs a thing to sell razor blades. Seriously.

Yep. Hard to argue that's a bad thing, though. I personally shave everywhere just because it makes me feel cleaner, lol.

Make up is just about attracting a mate, lots of animals do it too.

I don't think so. Married women wear make-up, asexual women wear make-up, etc. It's just about looking presentable. And even then, it doesn't explain why right-wingers think it's only for humans with vaginas.

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Ain't you from Texas?

I am.

Yep. Hard to argue that's a bad thing, though. I personally shave everywhere just because it makes me feel cleaner, lol

I shaved my ass once, used a safety razor too. If anyone isn't familiar with a "safety" razor it's like a razor blade sandwiched between a couple things of stamped metal. Anyways, I poked that around my butt cheeks and shaved all my ass hair without even cutting myself once. Which is impressive if you ask me. Anyways, I got this ingrown hair and it was... Unpleasant.

why right-wingers think it's only for humans with vaginas.

Um, well, I ain't gonna defend makeup.

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I am.

Cool.

I shaved my ass once

Lol, that's random.

Anyways, I got this ingrown hair and it was... Unpleasant.

That'll happen if you ain't careful.

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Lol, that's random

You mentioned shaving was hygienic, but you risk ingrown hairs and shaving creates microtears in the skin.

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You just have to be careful. It takes years to figure it all out, but with enough persistence: it can be done.