Redditor has a bad time at a gay orgy. The level of entitlement is astounding. This is what happens when you have little to no real world experience and fall for what the internet tells you.

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[–]AsInBeer 38 insightful - 2 fun38 insightful - 1 fun39 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

So I actually have sympathy for this person. Basically these are people whose brains tell them they are the gender opposite of their body. You have to admit you never "decided" to feel like the man/woman you are- the feeling was just completely there for you, fully formed . So there exist people where the two do not match- the brain and the sex.

The worst part is they're being led to believe that, by "educating' people, they can be desired. That's NEVER going to happen and leading them to believe it can through some Marxist type struggle session on the part of everyone in society is cruel in the extreme.

They can be accepted, but not desired. To be desired, they have to find somone to whom they are desirable. Most gay men don't want a female body. Neither do they want a female body which has been operated on to look like a male. They want another man and his natural body. Same goes for all directions in all forms of reversal- straight men straight women lesbian women etc.

To the person who wrote this- Look, if people are so flexible as you require them to be about what they're attracted to, why don't YOU change YOURSELF to be attracted to men as a straight woman? What? That's not your authentic self ? That's not your authentic desire? That's not who you feel youself to be? Well, welcome to the club.

I acknowledge this can be real, not something they did to themselves out of some weird desire (in most cases at least) to be different . It's easy to imagine that the brain gets printed one way for one reason or another and the body is another way. OK. I don't hate them but there's no way in HELL I'm going to date them just like there's no way in HELL I'm going to fall in love with my car's exhaust pipe. It's not the thing I am looking for and that has NOTHING to do with culture any more than your belief you're a trans was imposed on you by culture.

You can save youself a lot of heartache and not expose yourself to these situations. This is something we all learn. There are whole classes of people- taller, prettier, slimmer, smarter, the list goes on and on, whom we desire but who do not desire us and we just have to suck it up and learn to live with it. Sexual rejection is a basic experience of life EVERYONE experiences, and yes, it makes you want to cry.

All I can say is there's someone out there for everyone because just the way you were born with a mismatched brain and body so also is there someone out there who was born with unusual tastes in partners.

But aside from that, you know what? Thre's more to life than romance (not that you were looking for romance at a gay orgy...). People who die virgins live incredibly fulfilled lives and contribute to society in spectacular ways. The richness and meaning to be found in life is not about who you partner with or even if you partner at all.

Just ask Sir Isaac Newton.

[–]Wahwah 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Your response was actually kind and balanced.

He set himself up for failure, no one can make other people desire them, and even more unappealing it gets when they are bullied for it e.g. transphobic. That too only 2 months into transition.

I think it's best to keep the identity clear that they are trans and live a happy life without entitlements, people who like them will do so naturally.