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[–]Destresse 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

She sounds low-empathy and thrill-seeking. Run.

Lol, in all seriousness though, you don't say one bad thing about her in there and I still got a super negative image. Why is that?

This raised a question in me, do you have a pattern of falling for low-empathy women?

Something to consider: self-hate isn't innate, people develop this strategy to make sense of abusive environments. "It must be me" gives an illusion of control. It's easier than thinking "I'm in danger and have no way out." This is why many, many, many people with low self-esteem generally fall for shitty people and show no interest in balanced people. Ironically it's the safe option. It's what they know, it's familiar, "it must be me" means shitty people don't exist and they're safe. And if they get hurt then it's not a shitty person who hurt them, since "it must be me", right? They flagelate themselves for a while and go on to fall for the next low-empathy person they can find. It validates the self-hate, and allows them to keep avoiding their early trauma that made them hate themselves in the first place.

I'm not sure you needed that lecture lol. That was also very simplified as self-hate manifests in many different ways. But if you do have a pattern of falling for low-empathy women, then... It's not that you're disgusting, it's that you're unconsciously trying to protect yourself.