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[–]goonmessiah 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

That is awful. Im sorry you’re having to process it all because it sounds like your “friend” is a mess.

Just remember while you’re processing all of these feelings that it wasn’t you who was sending mixed messages.

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    [–]oofreesouloo 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    A friend of mine suggested that she was deliberately playing me so i could serve as a source of validation for her. In hindsight that's logical, but i never got cruel vibes from her in the like 15+ years I've known her. Maybe I'm too trusting. Idk.

    This. Look, I don't know you or your history and I can only speak from personal experience. Don't. Trust. Women. Ever. Not even lesbian or bi women, but lesbians are definitely the more trustworthy when it comes to dating. Based on my 10 years since I've realised I'm a lesbian and talking to women and having several crushes and so on, I know one thing for sure - women love attention. They literally do ANYTHING for attention. They will lead you on just to have validation. It isn't about you, it is about them. The truth is that women who ACTUALLY date women in a serious long term way are really really few. I would argue only lesbians and a very small percentage of bi women.

    So don't take it personally and I'm sorry this has happened to you. Been there, done that, more than once, with different women.