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[–]Destresse 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, what is it that bothers you exactly?

I feel the same as you, for the record, but for me it is:

  • the fact I have been bombarded my entire life with messages that female homosexuality doesn't really exist, and therefore seeing "lesbians" talking about their relationships with men, saying they truly loved them or whatever, upsets me. It feels like one more "female homosexuality doesn't really exist and you're the only one who can't have sex with men. You really are a defect."

  • I hear straight women talk about men. I hear bi women talk about men. Hearing a lesbian talk about men feels like everyday life, drowned in heterosexuality. I don't want it.

  • I've never been in a relationship so I don't know how I'd react exactly, but I suspect I'd be pretty upset at my girlfriend mentioning men regularly. I'd feel extremely inadequate, because heterosexuality is the norm and in more cases than not, is more enviable than homosexuality. So I'd wonder, am I wasting her time? If she likes men, why the heck is she bothering with being with me? Lol I know bi women get upset about this line of thought, but it's how I feel. (Sorry bi women)

So, I mean... You don't necessarily have anything to "get over". Depends on where your feelings come from. I'm going to be honest, it really surprises me that you'd consider therapy for this. You're a lesbian, you're not attracted to men, why is it a problem when you dislike when other lesbians (if they are lesbians at all) talk about men as though they're fine with dating them? Also, what you're describing is just plain old identification. You hear this and put yourself in their shoes and it makes you feel awful because it'd be an awful experience for you. There is nothing wrong with that...

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