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[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Just wanted to say I totally relate, and you're not alone, a bunch of us feel like this. I am also currently struggling to decide whether I should tell a close friend about all of this, I'm afraid of damaging our relationship.

[–]lovelyspearmint 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

The best way to get an idea of what they're thinking is mention something in passing, especially if it's in the news (like if a gay movie or trans movie is nominated for an Oscar or something) and use that to gauge their reaction. I used it on religious family members and their poor reaction was enough to send so far back in the closet that I reached Narnia.

[–]SickOfThisShit[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is a good idea, although I worry she would probably be polite and wouldn't bring up any controversial opinions herself if brought up casually. I think if she felt the way I do she'd be just as hesitant to bring it up. But it couldn't hurt to try