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[–]RedditHatesLesbians 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah... I completely understand. I don't know any real lesbians in real life, only women who claim to be lesbians while still dating and hooking up with men, women who claim to be lesbians but think vulvas are gross, women who claim to be lesbians but constantly talk about their male celebrity crushes... It's honestly just gross, disheartening and as you succinctly put it, alienating. I don't trust anyone who says they're a lesbian anymore because 9/10 they're not actually homosexual. I'm beginning to think true homosexuality is even like 0.5% of women or even less, as in the true homosexuality of never having thought of men sexually AT ALL. With most lesbians I speak to they all seem to have exceptions, or would fuck Leonardo dicaprio, and no one seems to get that I have the same amount of sexual interest in any man as I have towards roadkill. People just don't get the total lack of anything there, and they think they must be lesbians because they like women, or even like 99% women but true homosexuality is pretty rare in my opinion...

[–]lovelyspearmint 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I, for example, find it hard to explain to other people why I call myself a lesbian despite finding handsome men aesthetically beautiful/pleasing (as in 'i love watching this handsome actor'). It's just that. I don't get hot and bothered over men, I find being close to men disgusting and from the few attempts at being straight, I'd be sickened at the thought of kissing or having sex with these dates; let's not even start on how disgusting penises look. Women are different, I love everything about women, from head to toe, I love being in proximity to women and I've never felt about men the way I do about women.

However, I too have met so-called lesbians who lust over men, so they're either bisexuals in denial or straight and wanting to feel special by using an inappropriate label.

(Edit: I meant why I find it hard to explain to other people why. I'm very sure in being a lesbian ;) )

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right, I don't mean people who just find certain males handsome. Women can find other women beautiful without being bisexual. But, when you're constantly talking about how hot a male celebrity is and you don't do the same with women it just leaves a bad taste in my mind. Personally I don't find any man aesthetically pleasing and I just don't get why anyone would, I'm always looking at the women on the TV screen. But when it comes to purely aesthetics it's like debating which painting is prettier, it's subjective and doesn't have much to do with sexuality. Your own body tells you if you're sexually attracted to men you find beautiful and repulsion is a sign a woman is a lesbian.