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[–]oofreesouloo 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I haven't been here for a while, decided to lurk today and liked this post lmao. So, my answer:

It depends, but honestly I've grown to be very cautious of bi women. I've come to realise (the hard way) that lesbians and bi women, despite sharing same sex attraction, have total different life experiences and struggles. They just don't get what we have to go through, honestly (as I won't get their struggles). My point is that we see the world in a considerable different way... Having said this, it's not that I promptly exclude bi women from my dating pool, but it's a fact that I'll be very picky in pursuing or not a bi woman. First off, she NEEDS to be out to mostly everyone, including her family. And she needs to be a very confident woman, meaning she takes pride in being bi and knows what she wants. Like, if you're bi, just own it. I find that it's rare to find this kind of confident bi women. Usually what I see is bi women hiding behind straight relationships and having same sex affairs once in a while. Huge turn off, and it's not because of the bisexuality.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel this 100%. Last year I was completely in love with one of my bi friends, asked her out and she actually said yes. I was ecstatic. Because of lockdown we didn't see each other all that much but we texted constantly and face timed, we'd go to sleep together while on call to one another. Anyway, after a while when lockdown stopped for a few months over here we visited each other, spent lots of time together but she didn't want to go past holding hands, not even kissing. I respected her boundaries and it was her first relationship ever, and we're only young, I was 17 then and she was 18 but after a few months more of refusing to act like a couple and just treating me like her best gal pal I gave up. Now she's dating some dude, posting pictures of them kissing online and raving to everyone about him while she tried to keep our relationship on the down low. It really hurts, not doing that again