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[–]TarshishJupiter[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For me, there were multiple things that I learned.

  • There are people out there who are capable and willing to love me, even being the way I am. I am also capable of loving people romantically.
  • I do want to end up with someone and not be alone. I like being with someone, even if it didn’t end up working out with this specific woman.
  • I’m actually a very sexual person, and having no sex in a relationship or very little is not for me.
  • I want to get with someone who loves being a woman, even if she doesn’t love how society treats women. I can’t be someone’s dysphoria crutch.
  • I understand why people rave about French kissing now.
  • No one is my “soulmate” or “one and only”. There are many possible women I could match the with, but none are a perfect match.

[–]TarshishJupiter[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I should add that my first relationship started out of a friendship that went back since we were kids. We had a lot of history and good memories. It was a romantic dream for the first summer, and then when we became long-distance while she was in college, it slowly deteriorated. Now I don't even have her friendship anymore, unfortunately.