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I was 14. She was 16. I'd recorded the Canadian lesbian-themed movie "When Night Is Falling" (1995) on a VHS tape and watched it many times before imitating Petra and stalking Miranda (my first girlfriend's name). Petra stalked Camille in the movie, and that worked in her favor, so I did the same thing... with a little help from my cousin who knew Miranda and told her why I was following her home after school. I would stand across the street from Miranda's house in an empty parking lot of a baseball field, and one day she came out and stood on her porch staring back at me. I walked over to ask her out and she said yes. Our first date was at an amusement park with my family. My mom is bi and dated a girl when she was 17 before she started dating my dad when she was 19, so she had no issue with me dating a girl... she had an issue with Miranda being white. My mom had issues with homophobic/racist white women during the women's rights movement and didn't want me dating white girls, which I did anyway throughout high school (I had six white girlfriends in 4 years). Miranda said racist shit about my mom... at that time, my mom was a bit muscular, had a six-pack, and didn't shave... and Miranda said my mom looked like an ape. We broke up during my first month of high school in 1997 after a few months of dating. Her family moved after I did something disgusting (got the idea from the movie "Carrie"... Miranda looked similar to Sissy Spacek). What I learned from my first relationship is that I was too young to date (as my mom told me, but I was too miserable to wait any longer) and that teenagers should listen to their parents, especially if the parents have good advice based on personal experiences.