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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you.

My ex girlfriend did something similar, but we were planning a life together so not 100% the same. But I can definitely relate to the whiplash you’re feeling it’s very disorienting especially when the person seems to back up their words with actions.

It’s not your fault by the way. It can happen to anyone no matter how careful they are or how fast or slow they take it with a person.

[–]verystablegenius 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

what happened with you and your girlfriend?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She broke up with me one night out of the blue.

She was telling me all day how excited she was for me to move in with her, for us to get married, how much she loved me and then 5 hours later she woke up from a nap, called me told me she wanted to move to a different city, to be closer to her parents, and then asked me what I thought and I said “well you didn’t mention me in there...do you want me to be there?” And she goes “I guess not”

I came to find out months later after getting annual lab work done that she had given me herpes, confronted her with that newfound information and then she proceeded to tell me that she had been unhappy for the last 5-6 months of the relationship and didn’t want to say anything because “it was never the right time” with my birthday and then Thanksgiving, Christmas and Valentine’s Day she just couldn’t find the right time. So for 5-6 months she told me she loved me every day, told me she was excited to marry me, would send me houses she wanted us to look at, met my family, told my mom she was looking forward to us having a family together, traveled with me, slept with me, but knew she wanted to end things the whole time.