Is anyone else just tired?

submitted by homosomes from self.Lesbians

Of everything. I just want to live my life. I'm tired of lesbophobia. I'm tired of having to be cautious when I think of joining a group that says it's for us or LGBT people, because so many of them are now full of people who are are openly homophobic. I'm tired of my sexuality being treated like a fashion trend or a fandom. I'm tired of religious people and family members who want people like me dead. I'm tired of people trying to convince me I'm not actually a woman just because I'm tomboyish. I'm tired of hiding. From conservatives. From progressives. It feels like nobody understands us. Even other lesbians don't see a problem with throwing us to the sharks.

When can I be me? When can I just exist without constantly being put under a microscope?

I just want to rest. I just want to feel comfortable. I just want to breathe.

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[–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Honestly I'm mostly tired of this: "I'm tired of my sexuality being treated like a fashion trend or a fandom."

Even my old safe spaces from the rest of the world aren't safe anymore due to these people

[–]lovelyspearmint 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

All the people talking about wanting queer representation, a lot of them just fetishise lesbians, bis and gay men and aren't actually being represented.

For example, I don't give a shit if a movie doesn't have a gay relationship, I understand I'm in the minority, and I'd rather have no representation than poor or harmful representation (i.e. lesbians having to be with trans women, lesbian stories just being about being in the closet or lying about being straight, predatory lesbians etc.).

[–]lovelyspearmint 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

For now, we need to buckle down and endure the wave of bullshit coming our way, but as the saying goes, this too shall pass. I know it's difficult, but things can only go up from here.

[–]Elvira95 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If life has taught me something, it that there is no limit on how bad things can go

[–]homosomes[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This comment did not make me feel hopeful but it did make me laugh, so thank you for that.

[–]Elvira95 6 insightful - 7 fun6 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Well, for positive comment go somewhere else. I'm sarcastic but very pessimistic too :D

[–]HelloMomo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The real question is, "Is there anyone who's not tired?"

[–]catsuneko 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel you. Rn unfortunately the only places we can be ourselves are places like this that are specifically for exclusively same-sex attracted women, away from the inclusive "lesbian" and alphabet soup spaces. Lesbophobia has always been a thing, it's just that now it's being painted as "progressive" because lesbianism is "transphobic" now. Hopefully things will get better when trans ideology loses its popularity (which I think it will eventually).

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes. I relate to all of that.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think we are all tired of this. You can be you here. At least for a little while.

[–]Shinyowl 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Me. I'm tired of the whole alphabet soup thing. I'm sick to death of seeing some teary celebrity announce their newly discovered non-binary/trans/some sort of queerness! Folks who don't have a clue what it's like to be actually gay or lesbian or to have been positively terrified at some point (rightly) to come out of the closet.

[–]FlanJam 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel ya. Honestly, distancing myself from the super woke side of the lgbt community has done wonders for my sanity.