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[–]Destresse 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm 26, I don't think I qualify lol, but I had a 40-year-old hit on me once.

And, dude, I tried to see it from her perspective. Really I did. With what she told me, and what I imagined, it painted this picture:

Older lesbian feels 'young,' and doesn't want to be seen as boring. Age really doesn't mean anything, therefore. But still. She knows there's a difference. And so she drones on and on about "young people" and "old people" and "my ex was 10 years younger than me and it never bothered either of us" and ultimately sounds obsessed with age. Seriously. This was all she ever talked about.

I felt a little sorry for her. She called me "young in body but old in your head." rrthahahha.

This experience has made me very wary of women who are interested in women who are half their age.

To be honest, I don't think anyone sensible would stop talking to someone because that person's crushing on them. Except if they're creepy or insistent. If you can keep being her friend, I don't see why she'd put an end to the friendship. In this situation I feel the survival of the friendship depends more on you than on her. I might be wrong though. It's hard to say when I don't know either of you.

I'm curious though, what makes a woman twice your age attractive to you? I've always been extremely turned-off by the idea of a big age difference, so I don't get it haha.

[–]sunzzy[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Honestly its hard to explain why, I've always liked women who are older than me, there must be something wrong with me. I guess partially because she is so confident but also she is really talented and pretty. She is also a musician like me and I admire her a lot so in some ways its a case of 'do I want you or do I want to be you?' Thing is, I know a relationship wouldn't work out and I don't want to make a move, sometimes its just nice to feel excited when you see someone even if you never act on it. Im not sure if that's a normal way of thinking though.

[–]votkriscan 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong with liking older women though! I remember having the same feelings over someone. She is kind of femme-ish, and although she probably doesn’t photograph very well, she has a very attractively feminine personality, with a good sense of style and a smashing career as a doctor. Who wouldn’t want that?

Since you didn’t mention how old you are, women who do maintain themselves well, also maintain their physical attractiveness for longer periods of time, so it’s normal to find her pretty because she actually is still really gorgeous.

Anyways, good luck in your relationship aspirations. There is still the option to be good friends, even if it doesn’t work out. :)