you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–][deleted] 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I just think we shouldn't be defining ourselves in relation to men at all.

[–]bbbarbican 8 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 8 fun -  (1 child)

telling young lesbians that no, they shouldn't feel compelled to sleep with men to "be sure" is crucial. that it's ok to never sleep with men and to have boundaries. It's ok to feel zero attraction to men. Women are constantly told they should be available for sex with men. If you can't see that and want to frame the issue as some sort of irrational hatred for men, that's on you.

We live in a patriarchy, ALL women are defined by whether they sleep with men or not. like hello. Where is that place you live in where women get to be themselves with no relation to men at all? I would love to live there.

Also, the refusal of the term goldstar is a way for het or bi women to then claim to be lesbians, even though they have been fucking men for years with no gun to their head.

[–]TalerTest 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

no one said anything about hatred of men. I don't think you even understood the comment.

Also, EVERYONE here is all for telling lesbians that they don't have to sleep with men just to be sure that they are lesbians.