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[–]yousaythosethings 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have no problem whatsoever with gold star positivity but I am not myself one and neither are the majority of lesbians I personally know, even the ones that I find impossible to picture with a man. While you are entitled to your opinion, there are a number of possible scenarios that can result in a lesbian not being a gold star due to having “willingly fucked” a man. Trauma often has a lot to do with how we end up in this scenario making the choice that results in us not being gold stars. It doesn’t mean we were ever attracted to men.

But I do believe generally that there is a scale of believability. Some people’s stories don’t really add up to them being lesbians and there are now resources actively convincing straight and bisexual women that they’re lesbians when they’re not.

[–]reluctant_commenter 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Trauma often has a lot to do with how we end up in this scenario making the choice that results in us not being gold stars. It doesn’t mean we were ever attracted to men.

But I do believe generally that there is a scale of believability. Some people’s stories don’t really add up to them being lesbians and there are now resources actively convincing straight and bisexual women that they’re lesbians when they’re not.

Completely agree.