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[–]Hydiee 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Pre-apology for my negativity, but most of this was eye-roll inducing. She said the prime reason she doesn't call herself a lesbian is because she didn't face homophobia growing up and had different experiences from most lesbians. How about, "I don't call myself a lesbian because I'm not one." That's all I wanted to see.

Bisexual people are regularly smeared as disease-ridden, promiscuous and anti-feminist.

People say that bisexual people are "anti-feminist"? Is that an actual thing that people actually say? Highly doubt that

[–]yousaythosethings 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

You are entitled to your opinion and I note your "pre-apology," but yes, you do sound pretty damn trifling if that's your one takeaway from this article most of which you found "eye-roll inducing." It does suck the life out of here to see attitudes like this become the dominant force in this space. I think I'm just gonna take a break and see myself out after this one. It's gotten so cold in s/Lesbians.

[–]ShotsFired 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sorry to say but I wasn't really impressed with the author's thought process either 😅

There are bisexual women who come out at a young age and date girls during their adolescence and experience homophobia due to it. Doesn't mean they can call themselves lesbians. I know that's not what the author was trying to say but it can definitely be interpreted as that. The reason bisexual women shouldn't call themselves lesbians is because they're not. It's very simple.

Another thing I picked up on is the author seems to conflate lesbians with political lesbians. What lesbian is going to say that being bisexual is anti feminist? As if sexual orientation is something you choose.

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Another thing I picked up on is the author seems to conflate lesbians with political lesbians. What lesbian is going to say that being bisexual is anti feminist? As if sexual orientation is something you choose.

Same argument why "being lesbian is transphobic". Like it is a choice.

[–]Hydiee 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

What was your take from the article? Honestly, I mostly come to s/Lesbians to let off steam. I'm sure there's others who do the same. Is it that serious?