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[–]Hydiee 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

Pre-apology for my negativity, but most of this was eye-roll inducing. She said the prime reason she doesn't call herself a lesbian is because she didn't face homophobia growing up and had different experiences from most lesbians. How about, "I don't call myself a lesbian because I'm not one." That's all I wanted to see.

Bisexual people are regularly smeared as disease-ridden, promiscuous and anti-feminist.

People say that bisexual people are "anti-feminist"? Is that an actual thing that people actually say? Highly doubt that

[–]yousaythosethings 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

You are entitled to your opinion and I note your "pre-apology," but yes, you do sound pretty damn trifling if that's your one takeaway from this article most of which you found "eye-roll inducing." It does suck the life out of here to see attitudes like this become the dominant force in this space. I think I'm just gonna take a break and see myself out after this one. It's gotten so cold in s/Lesbians.

[–]ShotsFired 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sorry to say but I wasn't really impressed with the author's thought process either 😅

There are bisexual women who come out at a young age and date girls during their adolescence and experience homophobia due to it. Doesn't mean they can call themselves lesbians. I know that's not what the author was trying to say but it can definitely be interpreted as that. The reason bisexual women shouldn't call themselves lesbians is because they're not. It's very simple.

Another thing I picked up on is the author seems to conflate lesbians with political lesbians. What lesbian is going to say that being bisexual is anti feminist? As if sexual orientation is something you choose.

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Another thing I picked up on is the author seems to conflate lesbians with political lesbians. What lesbian is going to say that being bisexual is anti feminist? As if sexual orientation is something you choose.

Same argument why "being lesbian is transphobic". Like it is a choice.

[–]Hydiee 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

What was your take from the article? Honestly, I mostly come to s/Lesbians to let off steam. I'm sure there's others who do the same. Is it that serious?

[–]LesbianInExile[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Political "lesbians" say being bisexual is anti-feminist because being a lesbian to them is about taking a stand against the patriarchy and being separate from men, not about a sexual orientation. In terms of sexual orientation, a lot of political lesbians are actually bisexuals but are febfems who call themselves lesbians.

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I've always thought that most political lesbians are straight women because they always talk about unlearning attraction to men and learning attraction to women. Bisexual women wouldn't have to force attraction to women, especially not febfems who prefer women. But yeah, political lesbians do see lesbianism as some kind of revenge against men. It's all about men men men for them.

[–]VioletRemi 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

If you are doing something as revenge to someone, and trying to not interract with that someone too much - your life is still fully controlled by that someone, because you doing not what you want, but everything to not be near that someone. It is like fanatism, but with hatred.

[–]Elvira95 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You're as smart as you're hot. одружися зі мною

[–]VioletRemi 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Ah, Elvy~

[–]Elvira95 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah, Kat

[–]DifferentAirGC 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Do all political lesbians even date or have sex with women? I've once seen one who claimed lesbianism was about centering women, not about attraction.

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Centring women is what they try to sell it as, but if they are going around telling other straight & bi women that being attracted to men is "anti-feminist" then idk.