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[–]TalerTest 11 insightful - 7 fun11 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 7 fun -  (8 children)

I get the feeling that the mods are teenagers. I mean... wtf. Well r/BiologicalLesbians is still infinitely superior to r/Actuallesbians. Not that that's saying much.

[–]lovelyspearmint[S] 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Yeah, teenagers who think lesbians dynamics are the same as those in gay fanfiction, where at least top and bottom makes a bit more sense.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

is that where they're getting it from ?? that's so weird.

[–]lovelyspearmint[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I'm only guessing, but where else would they get it from? Maybe straight people trying to normalise straight sexual dynamics in lesbians? What I find interesting is that too and bottom was never used until the TQ crowd started to butt into lesbian culture, so maybe it's the influence of transbians convincing younger, inexperienced lesbians that top and bottom is a lesbian thing?

It's all just speculation on my part, but that's all I can think of.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah I'd heard of it in the gay community as slang for who likes to penetrate / be penetated, but then a couple of years ago lesbians started using it which confused me because we don't have dicks. People now seem to be adding a submissive / dominant dynamic to it which plays out like a man / woman dynamic in a heterosexual relationship... which is both sexist and homophobic to assume all lesbians will fall into this dynamic.

[–]Hydiee 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

when you say lesbians started using top and bottom are you referring to real life or the internet? I've never encountered lesbians who use those terms IRL. I'm convinced it's just a stupid thing that teens/clueless virgins do online, many of whom are not even lesbians.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Internet!!!! Specifically actuallesbians when I used to hang out there a couple of years ago. And yes, someone talking about 'bottom energy' irl would be an absolute clown.

Edit: oh and youtubers. There were a two women who would have conversations about lesbian stuff and that's where I heard it not just on actuallesbians. I was surprised because they weren't internet randoms.

[–]piylot 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've found it leaking into the real world too

[–]lovelyspearmint[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It always reminds me of that question that people used to ask lesbians: "So, who's the man in the relationship?"