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      [–]Rubyredpython 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      This!

      [–]just_lesbian_things 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

      I don't discuss anything regarding my sexual orientation for this reason. Before I come out, straight women tend to assume I'm asexual. I don't discuss any of it with or in front of them. I don't want them to know, and I don't want them telling their boyfriends or husbands to spice up their lame sex life. They love to hint at being "bicurious" too. If they press the issue, I always act grossed out and say they're not my type, no matter how hot they are. Don't give them the satisfaction.

      [–]Rubyredpython 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

      Are you still attracted to her? I'm just asking because if I had a friend send me pics like that, I'd shut it down the immediately and say "meh, not my type". It really sounds like an ego boost for her x2. She gets attention from you and her boyfriend.

      "Why do straight women do this?" Honestly, straight women tend to think of our attraction as they do guys in that we'd go after every woman with a heartbeat. This has just been something that I noticed because they're always shocked when a lesbian says they aren't interested.

      [–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      You answered it yourself. It's 100% an ego thing. Oh, even lesbians want me. It's like proof of their desirability. Some of them also do it for male attention, because men love fetishizing any kind of woman on woman interaction and straight women want straight men to find them attractive.

      It is super slimy and gross.

      [–]emilyprentiss 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      She's either secretly in love with you (unlikely) or has severe issues she needs to resolve with her therapist (likely). I would honestly just not pay her any attention, or if you think she's mature enough for this conversation, then sit her down and tell her how you've been feeling.

      [–]Rubyredpython 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Are you still attracted to her? I'm just asking because if I had a friend send me pics like that, I'd shut it down the immediately and say "meh, not my type". It really sounds like an ego boost for her x2. She gets attention from you and her boyfriend.

      "Why do straight women do this?" Honestly, straight women tend to think of our attraction as they do guys in that we'd go after every woman with a heartbeat. This has just been something that I noticed because they're always shocked when a lesbian says they aren't interested.

      [–]a_blue_bird 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      You have to be very firm with her. She is using you to mess with her boyfriend. By how she treats him you can judge how she'd treat you if you dated - she'd just cuddle up to some guy she finds hot right in front of you etc. And obviously she is also trying to get sex from you. Honestly, if I had a friend who acted in such a manipulative way (and with multiple people simultaneously), I would cut her off completely.