I've got a question about a weird situation I found myself in with a girl I've recently met (both in early 20s).
So we went on a couple of dates, she claimed she was lesbian but didn't come out until last year and before that she was in a long relationship with a guy. She's now out to her friends and family so I assumed there'd be no problems with her accepting herself but a few weeks in she tells me that it's apparently a red flag that I'd never dated a guy?!
I was baffled because, of course, I'm lesbian, but I had told her before that in my teens I thought I was bi first, so she considers that I should've had at least one serious relationship with a guy back then. I actually did try going out with guys in my teens but something just didn't sit right with me and after a few years I finally realized I'm just lesbian and that the guys were not the problem haha. I was also never in long-term relationship with a girl but that's due to the very homophobic environment I grew up in (and now we both live in a big city so we can date freely). I told her that it definitely wasn't easy for me not being able to be myself in my late teens and such, but she just disregarded that and I've had the impression that she thinks there's something wrong with me.
She also mentioned a dick a few times when we had sex and, as a lesbian, I'd never do that, I just genuinely never think about dicks (a big yes for dildos and strap-ons tho). I don't think I'll meet her again, but what do you think the deal is with her? Is it internalized lesbophobia, or is she maybe bi but currently more attracted to women / wants to explore?
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