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[–]florasis 12 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Horrible shit to see couples heavy kissing in public. Get a fucking room.

[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

It depends. If people are around, I go as far as kissing: peck on the lips, you know. If no one is around, I went as far as sex.

[–]xv_xx 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think I was more comfortable when I was in my 20s than now (I'm 33). Might be that I'm a bit older now? It's not that we don't do any PDAs now, quite the opposite, but it's more what we do than how much. So, I'll be very comfortable holding my gf's hand, or walking arm in arm, or with my arm around her waist, sitting very close, her sitting on my lap, her head on my shoulder or viceversa, etc. The occasional long kiss, When I was in my early 20s, though, I would go as far as getting a hand under her clothes, much more kissing and heavy petting. As I say, part of it is maturity, I guess (not that PDAs are immature, but rather that you become more aware of other people and personal space as you grow older), but a clear element here is also the fact that over the years some of these PDAs have attracted stares and the wrong kind of attention. My gf is from Eastern Europe, and where she grew, PDAs between two women would have actually put her in danger, and that has influenced her to this day.

[–]VioletRemi 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

What PDA is exactly?

[–]piylot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

public displays of affection

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah. It can be dangerous here, so only minor stuff like hugs and handholding, no kissing.

[–]soundsituation 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Handholding/arm in arm is nice but would feel nicer still if no one were around. Anything beyond that I'm not really into. It's very safe here but I still don't see what I would get out of PDA other than unwanted attention.

[–]lmaonope333 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

holding hands is ok but not much else

[–]knownasness 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

i'm pretty much the same way i am with my friends, except i don't kiss my friends. lots of random touching, hugging, general closeness.

[–]killerjen231 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Growing up in California as a teen in the 00s, it was very unsafe trying to show most types of mild pda. I've always known my own comfort line for it was small kisses like pecks or slightly deeper (not making out!) and of course hugs and hand holding. My ex-wife at one point gave up giving fucks and constantly tried to make out (sloppily) which was embarrassing.

[–]hyunnahh 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

handholding and linking arms, maybe hugging, but everything else please keep it in privacy

[–]Freetochoose 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Holding hands and hugging. comfortable.