One of reasons is huge popularity of lesbian porn (it is most viewed tag on many porn sites). And many "lesbians" there are sleeping with men too. Bisexual women very often calling themselves as lesbians to become more sexy to their boyfriends.

Second reason is the transgender agenda. Because of it nowadays if you are not into penises - you are "transphobic", if you are saying "I am homosexual female" - it seen as attack on transgenders, if you are saying LGB issues, everyone will ask "why you not using LGBTQ+?", if you saying that you love only pussy - you will get "so you are radfem? Why you don't like girldicks?". Sometimes even just saying word "lesbian" is deemed to be offensive and is changed to "queer woman" instead. And so on.

Homosexuality by just existing is ruining whole GenderQueer Theory main ideas. Just being homosexual is already being against their ideology. So lesbians (and gay men too) just existing is a porblem to the modern Woke crowd. That is why majority of trans demand activists are attacking LGB people (and women). And because lesbians are both LGB and women - we are getting double attack. It is almost like bveing attacked by conservatives was not enough for us. Urgh.

feminism

Majority of feminist branches are fighting against this, however, they are all outcasted just as lesbians are. So we only see "mainstream feminism", or so called liberal or neo-liberal feminism, which is all about being appealing to men and serving to men - I can't call that as feminism at all. It is humanism, communis, "womanism", anything but not feminism.

There are some troubles even in "normal" feminism too, tho. Like some people there are still believing that all women are lesbians and heterosexuality exist only because men are physically enforcing it on women, those are often just straight or bisexual women, who are "political lesbians" as well. Gladly those people are the minority there, and they have no real voice, so society does not hear them rambling. Society mostly hearing only TRA, as those people have huge support from billionaires (in last few years they got around 500 million usd funding, which is more than lesbians got in the whole history of LGB movement).

So yeah, by just loving women you are "against transgenders". We want to calm down and everyone to forget about us, they want everyone to talk all the time about LGBTQ+ and focus all attention on them. We have opposite goals.

Why do people expect me to make my homosexuality 80% of my personality

New wave TQ+ crowd are mostly straight people who are making their identity a huge part of their personality and all the time focusing on them. And because it is part of LGBTQ+ acronym - everyone is thinking that we all like that, otherwise why we "together"?