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[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

We used to have a lot of political goals to fight for when getting married was illegal. And homosexuality was illegal. Etc. It really was part of being a homo, trying to attain rights, which is a political process. Women’s lib is political and lesbians also benefit from that movement. It’s easy to say that sexual orientation is not political, which is TRUE in itself, but fighting for our rights is, and needing to make our own spaces is directly related to the current politics. I don’t think it should be super offensive for people to think you might be involved in the fights for your own rights and the groups that do that. Just say it’s not really your thing

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Fair point, what's more annoying is that everyone has their own idea of what women's rights/gay rights should be, and you're automatically lumped in with the LGBT community. I honestly don't think I'm part of that and if I somehow automatically am just because I'm same sex attracted, I'd like to sign a waver to opt out lol. I don't feel like those people represent me or having anything in common with me. I also hate how some people consider real lesbians "bad lesbians" if their political views aren't as expected. I mean, this part of my identity and me also being an immigrant in this country just alienates me from a lot of people because they immediately perceive me a certain way.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

you're automatically lumped in with the LGBT community

And associated with crossdressers, pride parades and screaming transbians. "Ah, you are one of those" people here can say (we here had homophobic laws just 25-30 years ago, and we still has no legal protections of LGB people), and they see no reason to help us because of that, lol.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s hard, but we have no control over how anyone else sees us. I think a lot of women really hate the exact thing you’re describing. Hopefully it will change over time.