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[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I agree completely. I think this is the reality, and too many people wait for “magic” (meaning someone who just loves every single aspect of their personality etc, and doesn’t need any compromises to be reached or communication to sustain the relationship)

A romantic relationship is a thing that is separate from the two people in it, that they create together. Like a house. You have to negotiate and communicate and make personal sacrifices and understand the other person’s blueprints to build a relationship together. The house might not look exactly as you would have liked, but that is the result of creating something with someone else.

The popular notion of romantic love is honestly closer to what you would get from family, but with an unrelated person that you have sex with. Lol. Completely unconditional even when you are living by your own rules and behaving any way you please, and they still love you because they HAVE to. Two adults in a romantic relationship cannot expect this from each other

[–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

YES. And the thing you said about family makes so much sense, I've never thought about it this way